Sometimes I find it hard to join in. I came into this world as a very shy little girl and I’ve never totally outgrown that. I mean, I’m talking SO SHY. We would go to the YMCA and you turned in your membership card when you got there and got it back when you left (yes….so old school before scanners and what not). My mom would always try to get me to go ask the lady at the desk for our cards…I would absolutely refuse.
So now as a grown-up (I mean mostly anyway), sometimes I still find it hard to just join in and interact with people. This is particularly hard for me after the service is over at church on Sundays. We have friends and people we know in our community group, and I can talk to them, but my husband walks off as soon as the service is over to seek out new people to talk to – visitors, people he just hasn’t met yet, friends he has made – and he’s SO comfortable with it and good at making conversation. Why is that? And why can’t I be like that? I desperately want to join in and talk to people, but I feel awkward and shy.
Will I ever feel comfortable just joining in and talking to people? I mean, really, how hard is it to walk up and start talking to someone? Why do I feel paralyzed by this? My husband says it’s all in my head and that I don’t “have to” be a shy person. And I don’t really feel shy, I just feel awkward…
I don’t really know where this thought process is going, but that’s my five minutes, so it’s just a snippet of the story…
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I understand being shy. I’ve been there. Still have a lot of social anxiety. But I’ve found the best “cure” is to just get out and do what you really want to do – join in.
Such a wonderful blog post. It’s the raw ones that are the most freeing.
I so understand what you mean, I went through that at first as well before I started to heal through therapy…. you made a huge step in this post, and also writing …. that is a huge way to join! Thank you for sharing your story
I’m shy and introverted also. I think that’s why I like the internet so much.
Our posts are very similar. It is hard, and awkward!! I am here encouraging you!!